I am one of the lucky people in life. I am married to the man I know is my soulmate. When I tell people this, the question they generally get around to asking is “How did you know he was your soulmate?” Simple question you’d think, but the answer is not so simple because I don’t know. Honestly, I just knew.
We met on-line and I knew that I loved Mikael before we even met physically, because I knew what he thought about life, what he liked, how he interacted with me, and many little things that go to make up a man without a physical identity. On the day that we met in person, I was apprehensive that the “real” person would be unrecognisable as the man I had corresponded with many times daily for the past 7 months. I wasn’t prepared for the emotion that I felt when I first looked into his eyes and he took my hand however! I immediately knew that this wasn’t a passing fancy, or even a short-term affair. That this was IT. The big one that we all search for. Before I experienced this moment, I would never have believed it possible, although soulmate couples I have spoken to since assure me that they felt the same way. There was no fanfare playing in my mind, there was no fire burning passionately within me, there was just an over-riding sense of calmness deep within that here was my forever and this was where I was meant to be.
Of course at that time I didn’t know what he was feeling. I was nervous because I thought, “What if he is my soulmate but he doesn’t like me?” I had nothing to fear. It took him a couple of days to get around to telling me, because he was so surprised at the depths of his feelings for me that he had to get used to it first, but when he did, we were the happiest people on the earth. We were so relaxed about it all, as if we’d known all along that this is how it would turn out and of course everyone would understand. Those who saw us together did, those who didn’t were sceptical but have come to learn that this relationship was one that was meant to be.
Before writing this article I asked Mikael how he knew I was his soulmate. He looked at me for a few minutes and then laughed. “I don’t know, I just did!” he eventually replied. And that’s how it is. If you meet your soulmate, you don’t need to ask “How will I know?” because deep down within your soul, your spirit will leave you in no doubt that this is the partner that you should spend the rest of your life with.